>Iâ€™m not big on relationships. Iâ€™ve never understood them, unless they are with something reliable, something like TIVO. So around February 14th when everyone complains about how trite Valentineâ€™s day has become, I hardly pay attention. I figure if you made your bed you can sleep in it. The issue I have is with Motherâ€™s Day.
Now before you get all up tight in your office chair or stressed in your cozy couch in Starbucks, hear me out. I love my mom. She rocks, really she does. And, no Iâ€™m not saying this cause I know sheâ€™ll read this. My mom and I are good. She lives far away and sends me gifts on my birthday. That makes her all good in my books.
But yesterday when I was in Shoppers trying to find a good motherâ€™s day card, it hit me. Motherâ€™s Day is my Valentineâ€™s dayâ€¦.wait, that sounded creepier than I wanted it to. I just mean that it is so silly. Just because someone somewhere decided that Moms donâ€™t get enough love, we have to send them cards and tell them we love them. Shouldnâ€™t we do that anyway? Or at the very least send them an e-mail every now and then and tell them that we miss their cooking and remind them how much we like care packages.
The other issue that comes with Motherâ€™s Day is the competition. You wouldnâ€™t think it, but this day has become very stressful. If you have siblings that are all sending your mom cards and gifts, you donâ€™t want to not send something, or something that pales in comparison to the 24 long stem roses that your sister will send, or the concert tickets your brother will. Itâ€™s all just too much. How do you compete? At one point, I even thought about sending my mom a note saying instead of buying your gift, I decided to pay rent. Surely the thought of her son not moving into the homeless shelter would give her the same feeling a big bouquet would.
So in the end I bought my mom a nice card and a gift card to one of her favorite places. I know sheâ€™ll love it and, because she is who she is, sheâ€™ll probably share it. But I canâ€™t help wish that we didnâ€™t have these made up holidays. I wish that we didnâ€™t feel like we had to prove something to someone every month. But Iâ€™ll play along, Iâ€™ll buy the cards and gift certificates, but when Hallmark invents a TIVO day is when I call it quits!
Love ya Mom